Are you looking for a partner to start a new, satisfying relationship with? Or are you wondering if the person you are with is really the right one ? Unfortunately, love is not an exact science and it is difficult to find a single answer that fits everyone and in all situations. However, scientists have spent decades trying to figure out why we fall in love with one person over another.
And while not all the “secrets of the heart” have yet been revealed, researchers suggest that there are certain characteristics we should look for in a potential suitor in order for the relationship to be successful.
So according to science here are 9 qualities that characterize the perfect partner.
9 qualities to look for in a partner for a successful relationship
1. He’s smart
While it’s natural for some people to be smarter than others, a new study from the Hanken School of Economics in Finland suggests that the smarter a person is, the less likely they are to be unfaithful .According to research, those who are smarter are more likely to get married and stay married.
2. It makes you laugh
Finding someone to laugh with is key. Even if everyone else rolls their eyes at his jokes, all that really matters is whether they make you laugh
And one study showed that when you share the same sense of humor, your relationship is more likely to succeed.
3. Actively supports your career
Research has found that husbands’ opinions are a deciding factor in two-thirds of women leaving their jobs. Often because women think it is their duty to raise their children.
But when women described their husbands as supportive and involved in child care , they also revealed greater relationship satisfaction overall .
4. He wants to spend time with your friends
It is not uncommon for one to end up giving up one’s social life to fit into that of one’s partner.
However, maintaining your friendships is key. So make sure you’re dating someone who not only wants you to have time to see your friends, but also wants to get to know them and spend time with them.
5. He’s emotionally intelligent
If stereotypes are to be believed, it is women who are always desperate to talk about feelings and never men.True or false, it is important that each member of the relationship has a certain level of emotional intelligence and is willing to talk about (and resolve) any problems.
6. Respect your opinions and listen to what you have to say
If the person we’re with thinks they’re always right and never takes our point of view into consideration, that’s not a good sign.
Characteristic, sure, but find someone who always listens to what you have to say.
7. He’s willing to commit (for real)
A University of Texas study found that the most successful relationships weren’t due to compatibility, but rather whether the relationship worked.
So, if you or your partner are always looking for an excuse to fight rather than committing to making your relationship last , that might not bode well.
8. Celebrate your successes with you
It’s important to have a partner who celebrates your successes.
Not only will it feel good, but a study published in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology revealed that couples who celebrated each other’s successes were more satisfied with their relationships than those who reacted negatively or were indifferent.
Research confirms it having a similar outlook in life could be crucial for a successful relationship. So the more similar your personalities are, the more likely you are to approach problems in the same way.
Of course, if your partner doesn’t have all of the above qualities, that doesn’t mean you should dump him. After all, we all look for different things in a partner and in a relationship.