Every love relationship needs balance and compromise to work. The need for space can be a sign that perfect harmony has not yet been found, talking to your partner is essential to make things work.
Living within a couple relationship is as rewarding as it is delicate. Finding the right person to share your life with is one of the greatest fortunes you can have. Falling in love, and being reciprocated, is the most beautiful thing that can happen, it’s worth making some compromises. However, making the relationship work in a healthy way for both partners and avoiding a couple crisis is not so simple and obvious. We often feel we need space within the relationship and experience this feeling with discomfort and even a sense of guilt.
On the other hand, communicating to your partner that you feel the need for more space can create difficulties. Conversely, accepting this request from your loved one, or your loved one, can displace and raise doubts about your relationship. At the base, however, there must be the possibility of communicating one’s needs without fear or impediments, otherwise the perfect balance to make things work will never be found.
What’s important is to understand that it’s completely normal to want more time and space to spend without your loved one, there’s nothing wrong with that. Our feelings give voice to needs that we often don’t even realize, we mustn’t underestimate them but try to understand and indulge them. Needing time to yourself doesn’t mean you don’t love your partner.
It’s normal to require space in a relationship
Let’s dispel this myth needing our own times and spaces that are all ours is necessary. We are human beings, single individuals and we continue to be so even as boyfriends or girlfriends. If we spend too much time engaged in married life it is normal to then feel the need to carve out exclusive moments to take care of ourselves, cultivate interests and passions that concern only us. It’s not a problem, it doesn’t ruin the relationship, it’s neither partner’s fault , it’s a need and as such it shouldn’t be ignored.
Indeed, silencing needs and feelings in the long run can lead to ruining the relationship. All the things left unsaid, the needs silenced, the renunciations made in the name of married life, do nothing but fuel the feeling of “sacrifice”. In the long run, all of this can lead to harboring resentments or giving rise to the feeling of having lost too many opportunities in favor of the partner. In order to avoid having regrets, it is better to point out your need for space.
Understand the partner’s needs
How many times when faced with the phrase “I need space” have you felt full of doubts and fear for your relationship? Having ascertained that it is not fear to commit, it is better to avoid putting the whole relationship in crisis for a natural request like this. Sure, the need for space means that the perfect balance to make things work hasn’t yet been achieved, but no love story is without its obstacles.
Every lasting and healthy relationship needs to find the most suitable rhythms and ways to consolidate and resist the problems of everyday life. The request for space is not a personal attack but simply the manifestation of wanting to make the relationship work better. Understanding this is essential to accept the need for the limb with the right thought.
Every relationship requires space
Sometimes one wonders if the need for more space is a prerogative of couples in crisis or a symptom of having the wrong person in front of them. The good news is that this is not the case. Even the most experienced and in love couples need their own spaces to function. There is no fixed rule that applies to everyone, but for most people living everything as a couple is not sustainable. Only doing activities with your partner or partner can be reductive. This need can be misunderstoodand read as a desire to escape from the relationship, a setting aside of responsibilities or a lack of involvement of the partner in the private sphere. Often, on the other hand, behind this request there is only the desire to feel like yourself and want to detach a little from the role of boyfriend to think a little about yourself.
Needing space doesn’t mean the relationship isn’t working the way it should. On the contrary, it means that you as individuals function very well, you have interests and needs to satisfy, you just cannot do it within the couple relationship. The world we live in makes us tired, we all work a lot, we are tired and full of tasks to do. Does it really seem so strange to you to want time to breathe and put your thoughts back in order?
Needing space within the relationship is normal, indeed healthy. If you have doubts about your relationship, talk about it with your loved one or your loved one, there is nothing better than building a relationship based on sincerity and transparency. If it is true love you need not fear.