Everyone gives you advice on what to wear to a wedding , but today we’ll tell you what you should never wear to a wedding.
Every time a wedding invitation arrives we tend to wonder what the right look will be for the occasion. But beyond evaluating the time of year, the location and the circumstances that will be the backdrop to the ceremony, there are general rules that are good to take into consideration before deciding on the party outfit.
It may have happened to you, or if not, consider yourself really lucky, to come across some “out of the ordinary” guests. Personally, as a wedding guest, I count guests in jeans (from trousers to jacket!), sneakers, t-shirts and trousers with a low crotch, men in moccasins or oxfords without socks. My personal list is missing the guest in white (a friend had something to do with hers, 100 points for her), but I can say that I have met some in total black or even red.
These details just listed represent just some of the things that should never be worn at a wedding. It’s true that we live in an era that aims to “rejuvenate formalities”: brides are choosing increasingly low-cut dresses that no longer make the celebrants pale and they certainly don’t wear tights which, as etiquette would dictate in the case of a religious function , they would be a must even in the middle of September. Nowadays there is greater openness, less constraint but, although the spouses should be the ones who make the rules first and foremost , there are things that we shouldn’t see even if all the rules in the world are dropped.
Wear a pair of jeans, a pair of sneakers or certain colors when not explicitly required as a dress coderelating to the event (a detail that you would find in the invitation), boils down not to a sign of freedom but to an unpleasant gesture and, let’s face it, rather rude and unnecessary. For a day, or an event that lasts part of it, you can make some small sacrifices, and even some effort, right?
Let’s see in detail what these 10 “forbidden” things are and let’s understand together, in case they are a decisive and indissoluble trait of your style, how to include them in your look with a few small tricks.
The Black
Let’s start with the most obvious color Black , debate on wearing black at a wedding has always been very lively. There are those who believe it to be the only true color synonymous with elegance, believing that it is actually a color linked to mourning , to illness, to the rigor of moments that certainly aren’t joyous as a wedding should be.
Many choose it because it is a safe haven but on these occasions it is best to use black with care: in recent years it has been approved for evening ceremonies and, in all others, in the black & white variant (with a predominance of white ) .
If you really can’t give it up, choose it in combination with other points of color for garments and surrounding accessories, from the stole to the jacket through necklaces, shoes, bags and other elements that break up the idea of total black.
The White
White is never worn at a wedding, unless it is an explicit request from the bride, as we imagine happened between Kate Middleton and her sister Pippa, bridesmaid ton-sur-ton. In all other cases it is a color to forget, as it is the bride’s prerogative that she may not take very well to having a lookalike in the most important photos and memories of her life.
Here too, if you can’t do without it, choose a mix of light nuances such as ice white, pearl, ivory; a set that, in short, distances itself as much as possible from an idea of white. Mandatory no lace or elements attributable to the bridal world.
The Red
Maybe it’s the one that causes the most stir and the most objections but yes, get it in your head, red at a wedding is not good. Considered a color that is too bright, belligerent and lively, it is seen as a color that shifts attention away from the spouses, considered by tradition to be the only true protagonists of the day.
Do you like it too much to give it up? Right, don’t do it but use it with care. Choose it for a belt, a bag, a floral element (or the detail of a print) but in a total look it is better to save it for another occasion.
The Jeans
Many of you will roll your eyes thinking that the wedding-jeans combination doesn’t even deserve to be discussed. And yet there are those who still haven’t understood that, between a context like that of a ceremony and the famous denim fabric, there is nothing to share.
Jeans have always been synonymous with workwear or clothing for casual moments and despite having been ennobled over the years, sometimes also included in haute couture collections – mind you, in the form of a suit or five pockets of course, but in precious and not at all easy variations – there’s no point in wearing it at a wedding.
The Sneakers
We use sneakers as a scapegoat of a genre, namely that of casual shoes linked to an imagery that clashes with the context of ceremonies: gym shoes, beach flip-flops, swimming pool slippers to put it clearly. There are no excuses (unless you have a cast on your foot, for goodness sake, far be it from us to prohibit them in that case). 
Don’t take us for lovers of heels at all costs, on the contrary, flat shoes are always welcome and sometimes even more refined than certain constructions and certain platforms that are never lacking on these occasions. But there are a thousand types before having to be reduced to the most gymnastic and least chic proposals of all.
The Boots
Worthy clarification to be made separately because they are very different from the aesthetics of the gym shoe but are, in the same way, not very pleasant for a ceremony. Despite the heel, which usually immediately appears more sophisticated and suitable for formal occasions, the boot is not exactly an elegant accessory.
However, we come to you with an acceptable interpretation a pair of ankle boots under palazzo trousers, for weddings in the colder seasons, can prove to be an excellent choice.
Uncomfortable Shoes
More than an issue of etiquette, what concerns uncomfortable shoes is a functional issue. In fact, it is said that you should never wear new shoes at a wedding for a reason linked to their comfort spending a day with sore feet is not the case, because you wouldn’t be able to enjoy the party properly. Therefore, ban any type of footwear that does not allow you to walk and dance without complaining. Or without looking constantly on edge and in pain.
Eccentric Clothes
As already mentioned for red, and partly also for white, the underlying concept is the risk of diverting attention from the bride and groom on their big day. For this reason, bizarre accessories, too bright colors and elements that capture all eyes are never appreciated.
And never mind if you are eccentric types who love to dress up so as not to go unnoticed on occasions like these you will have to learn to do it, maybe not completely, but at least a little.
Top And Mini Skirt
With the belief that there is no need to explain it in detail, we limit ourselves to telling you that for the reasons listed above, even micro tops, miniskirts and skimpy silhouettes, often seasoned with clever transparencies, are certainly not the first choice to make for a guest look that is respect. 
Let’s remember this though: style in general plays an important role, because if the spouses also love a certain taste , then everyone is free.
The Hat
This brings us to the last and perhaps most complex point: wearing a hat at a wedding, should it be done or not? Thanks to the passion for Royal weddings and large events that have highlighted this accessory, there are many guests who would like to wear a hat or fascinator at a wedding. But to do it, or not do it, you need to follow very specific rules. According to tradition, those who wish their guests to wear it are required to make this explicit in the invitation, an indication of the dress code for guests. If this wording doesn’t appear, and you don’t want to give up, just inquire by asking if the mother of the bride will wear it this gesture is seen as a pass for everyone, if she wears it, the other guests can do it too.
In any case, we remind you that it is only foreseen for weddings that are celebrated in the warm months and in the morning, by 12:00, and if it is a religious function, women must keep it worn for the entire duration while men are required to to remove it.