If you frequently struggle with jealousy, you may have noticed how it can cause tension in the relationship. We explain why jealousy hurts and how to get out of it.
Jealousy is a deep feeling that can affect the couple relationship. If you and your partner are sensibly jealous, this will add a little spice to feeling wanted; the problem emerges when jealousy becomes disproportionate to the situation and limits personal freedom with prohibitions, impositions or feelings of guilt. In this case it can become a dangerous obstacle. Insecurities emerge in the couple that don’t actually belong to the other but to their own emotional world that will inevitably affect the relationship.
We explain how and why you should learn to manage it to save the relationship and yourself.
Jealousy makes you unhappy
This is confirmed by research carried out at the University of Copenhagen. Researchers have shown how jealous people, who for example check the bulletin board and private messages on their partner’s Facebook profile, experience moments of stress and malaise which only exacerbate jealousy. 
It causes pain to anyone who tries it
Being jealous involves a very high expenditure of energy. Jealousy is made up of suspicions, doubts, control and the need for constant confirmations which, if disregarded, cause a crisis.
The border
Being able to manage jealousy means being able to draw the line between yourself and the other. Very jealous people have a hard time perceiving these boundaries and if insecurity takes over, the relationship can be bruised.
Understanding jealousy
If you don’t get to the bottom of it, jealousy could ruin your relationships. The best way to face this feeling is to give it meaning. You can talk about it with your partner to try to understand how to best manage this side that often puts a strain on you.
If you do a deep work on yourself you can finally enjoy your relationship.